What Actually Builds Resilience: Pressure, Process, and Purpose Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Let’s step back. Up to now, this series has focused on you—the individual reader. Your internal dialogue. Your emotional load. Your capacity to fall apart and rebuild. That work matters. But if resilience is real, it doesn’t stay static. IfContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 5"
On self-abandonment…
"We often abandon ourselves in an attempt to prevent other people from abandoning us." "If you are trying to manage other people's feelings, you are abandoning your own." ~Joe Hudson Some problem's are solution's to deeper problems... For more on this topic consider the book The Drama of the Gifted Child
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 4
Resilience Isn’t Just Bouncing Back (Eggs Break, Tennis Balls Bounce) Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction There’s something quietly seductive about the phrase “bouncing back.” It conjures images of recovery, strength, even speed: someone knocked down by life who springs right back to where they were, untouched and unchanged. It’s the fairy taleContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 4"
Why do you look for a third thing?
“When you’ve done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top—credit for the good deed or a favor in return?” ~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 7.73 "When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streetsContinue reading "Why do you look for a third thing?"
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 3
Resilience Isn’t Pre-Determined Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction One of the more seductive critiques of resilience goes like this: “It’s all predetermined. You either have it or you don’t. It’s baked into your DNA, your childhood, your trauma history, your bank account, or your ZIP code.” Now, is there some truth inContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 3"
When you see anger… train yourself to look for pain.
https://youtube.com/shorts/R8oqlgWizG8?si=DYXv8hG6PLmI5pUH “Anger is often what pain looks like when it shows itself in public.” – Krista Tippett - Book: I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 2
Resilience Isn't Victim Blaming Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Let’s start with one of my favorite catchphrases from the feedback side of my coaching work: Any feedback that can be restated as “Stop sucking, be more better” is of limited value. That, in a nutshell, is what gives resilience such a badContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 2"
Quote and book recommendation…
‘We must understand that justice is not this thing we demand of other people but something we demand of ourselves.” ~Ryan Holiday Book: Right Thing, Right Now, Good Values. Good Character. Good Deeds Concept: "Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one." ~Marcus Aurelius
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 1
Why We Won’t Throw Out Resilience Just Because Some People Misuse It Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Resilience gets a bad rap these days—and not without reason. In recent years, especially in conversations about trauma, adversity, and systemic harm, the concept of resilience has sometimes been used to shame people rather thanContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 1"
Sometimes, the people you always thought would be there won’t…
but also people you never expected to be there will.