Time does not heal… it is what you do in time that heals.

“That was a long time ago, but it’s wrong what they say about the past, I’ve learned, about how you can bury it. Because the past claws its way out. Looking back now, I realize I have been peeking into that deserted alley for the last twenty-six years.” ~Khaled Hosseini “Don’t turn away. Keep your...

When you see anger… train yourself to look for pain.

https://youtube.com/shorts/R8oqlgWizG8?si=DYXv8hG6PLmI5pUH “Anger is often what pain looks like when it shows itself in public.” – Krista Tippett – Book: I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real

7 Dirty Words Part 3: Disarming Your Inner Critic by Breaking Free from “Except” and “Must”

Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction “I did well, except for that one mistake.”“I must get this perfect, or I’ve failed.” Sound familiar? Although these statements might seem harmless, they have our next two of the seven dirty words. “Except” and “Must” are red flags for self-sabotage. In this post we’ll not only...

Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself: 7 Dirty Words Part 1

Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Take control of  the “Shoulds”: Aligning Expectations with Reality In our introductory installment of “The seven dirty words” we discussed a general approach to building mindfulness and becoming aware of using the words. Our mindfulness exercise focused on assessing  your personal energy level and emotional state preceding the...

Beautiful people do not just happen…

Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE When you see unusual kindness, compassion, and gentleness in others, understand there is always a story. Ask that person to tell you their story and you will invariably hear how they have experienced poor treatment and/or difficult times… and they don’t want others to feel what they have felt. “The...

If Everything Is Important, Nothing Is Important

Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Some timely holiday season coaching: BLUF: For some of us, a component of holiday  stress comes from trying to squeeze everything in the Important/Urgent quadrant. Some practical tips1)    Be brutally honest building your 2×2 Important/Urgent matrix.2)    Ask the question: what happens if I delay doing this task (or just dump it entirely)?3)    Is...

I will be happy when…

Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE when I get good score on the MCAT. when I get into medical school. when I get a good score on the USMLE. when I get my residency of choice. when I get my fellowship of choice. when I am an attending. when… “Your problem is you are hoping that...