“There is a hard law... when a deep injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive. ”~Alan Paton And it may be useful to remember... sometimes the person you need to forgive is you. "If your compassion does not include yourself... it is incomplete." ~Jack Kornfield
“In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet.” ~Albert Schweitzer
So, Ya Got Fired…Part 2: Feedback and Insight
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP In our first installment, I broached the topic of firing. We started at the beginning and discussed our ground-rules for avoiding unnecessary negative emotional responses, and used that to discuss an approach to managing the initial emotions that come with getting fired. We left off with three stepsContinue reading "So, Ya Got Fired…Part 2: Feedback and Insight"
So, Ya Got Fired…Part 1
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Odds are you’ve been fired, cut, dumped, or ghosted—by a job, a team, a person, or an institution—even though you thought you were good/great/vital/pivotal/indispensable. Full disclosure: Me too. I’ll talk about it during this post (and the sequels), but not in gory detail. First off, much ofContinue reading "So, Ya Got Fired…Part 1"
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 6
The Wrap-Up: What We’ve Learned, What Comes Next Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP The Rant Wasn’t Just a Rant Let’s face it—resilience needed a rebrand. Too many conversations about it either go Full Metal Jacket (“suck it up and drive on”), collapse into mushy platitudes (“just bounce back!”), or—on the flip side—dismiss resilienceContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 6"
“Curses don’t end…they’re broken.”
https://youtube.com/shorts/Adz_Myjr7kY?si=mmBLe7B9Oa_Xgv7x "Face your pain now or pass it along (even unwittingly) to those you love... just as it was passed on to you." ~ Terrence Real, I Don't Want To Talk About It. "The way you treat yourself is ultimately the way you will treat those you love most." ~Paul Conti, MD "Curses don't end...they'reContinue reading "“Curses don’t end…they’re broken.”"
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 5
What Actually Builds Resilience: Pressure, Process, and Purpose Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Let’s step back. Up to now, this series has focused on you—the individual reader. Your internal dialogue. Your emotional load. Your capacity to fall apart and rebuild. That work matters. But if resilience is real, it doesn’t stay static. IfContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 5"
On self-abandonment…
"We often abandon ourselves in an attempt to prevent other people from abandoning us." "If you are trying to manage other people's feelings, you are abandoning your own." ~Joe Hudson Some problem's are solution's to deeper problems... For more on this topic consider the book The Drama of the Gifted Child
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 4
Resilience Isn’t Just Bouncing Back (Eggs Break, Tennis Balls Bounce) Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction There’s something quietly seductive about the phrase “bouncing back.” It conjures images of recovery, strength, even speed: someone knocked down by life who springs right back to where they were, untouched and unchanged. It’s the fairy taleContinue reading "The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 4"
Why do you look for a third thing?
“When you’ve done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top—credit for the good deed or a favor in return?” ~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 7.73 "When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streetsContinue reading "Why do you look for a third thing?"