Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Thresholds That Truly Change Us I’ve crossed plenty of thresholds in my life. Graduations, promotions, marriage, a few plaques on the wall. All those moments came and went, all important in their own way. Despite the cultural significance, and that many of these events are dear to many...
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Living Richly Together: Perspective, Certainty, and the Ancient Problem We Keep Pretending Is New (Psychological Richness, Part 4)
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction In the third part of this series, I teased the idea of psychological richness applied beyond the individual. If richness is a mechanism to pursue personal growth, perspective shift, and learning, what if it is applied on a larger scale? Can richness be a mechanism to approach...
Living Richly: Music, Travel, Discomfort, and Growth in Tuscany
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Greetings and Salutations! Welcome to the third installment in the psychological richness series. In Part 1, I introduced Shigehiro Oishi’s concept of a psychologically rich life—one filled with interesting, perspective-changing experiences. In Part 2, I put on my skeptic hat and reengaged the theory: praised what works, critiqued what doesn’t,...
If a person explodes with anger at you, remember this…
“Everyone is caught up in a chain of events that long predates the present moment. Our anger often stems from problems in our childhood, from the problems of our parents which stem from their own childhood, on and on. Our anger also has roots in the many interactions with others, the accumulated disappointments and heartaches...
The most important thing is…
Concept: Hold both
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing… there is a field. I’ll meet you there. ~Rumi We often define other people by their worst moments. However, turn that perspective inward… would you want to be defined by your worst moments? Recognise that life can be complicated. People are complex. You are allowed to dislike some...
“That’s OK” Is Not OK: The Growth Mindset Rant (Part 2: Mentors and Leaders)
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction In Part 1, we explored how individuals sabotage themselves with fixed-mindset self-talk and how honest self-assessment paired with self-compassion opens the door to growth. Now let’s shift the lens: what happens when that same dynamic plays out in a mentor–protege or leader–team relationship? “Some people are not...
“Curses don’t end…they’re broken.”
https://youtube.com/shorts/Adz_Myjr7kY?si=mmBLe7B9Oa_Xgv7x “Face your pain now or pass it along (even unwittingly) to those you love… just as it was passed on to you.” ~ Terrence Real, I Don’t Want To Talk About It. “The way you treat yourself is ultimately the way you will treat those you love most.” ~Paul Conti, MD “Curses don’t end…they’re...
On self-abandonment…
“We often abandon ourselves in an attempt to prevent other people from abandoning us.” “If you are trying to manage other people’s feelings, you are abandoning your own.” ~Joe Hudson Some problem’s are solution’s to deeper problems… For more on this topic consider the book The Drama of the Gifted Child
Why do you look for a third thing?
“When you’ve done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top—credit for the good deed or a favor in return?” ~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 7.73 “When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets...