Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Too often, we attribute other people’s poor behavior to their character, while attributing our poor behavior to external/situational factors. Reference previous link language here. Hanlon’s razor: “Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by ______.” While it is possible that the behavior you are observing is, in fact,...
Category Archives: Self Awareness
“Your emotions are logical… you’re just bad at logic.”
When you experience an emotion, you have a thought about that emotion. That thought often determines the action you take. You likely blame the emotion for the action you take without considering the thought that led to the action. Next time you feel a strong emotion it may be useful to remember… your emotions are...
Living Richly: Music, Travel, Discomfort, and Growth in Tuscany
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Greetings and Salutations! Welcome to the third installment in the psychological richness series. In Part 1, I introduced Shigehiro Oishi’s concept of a psychologically rich life—one filled with interesting, perspective-changing experiences. In Part 2, I put on my skeptic hat and reengaged the theory: praised what works, critiqued what doesn’t,...
If a person explodes with anger at you, remember this…
“Everyone is caught up in a chain of events that long predates the present moment. Our anger often stems from problems in our childhood, from the problems of our parents which stem from their own childhood, on and on. Our anger also has roots in the many interactions with others, the accumulated disappointments and heartaches...
Time does not heal… it is what you do in time that heals.
“That was a long time ago, but it’s wrong what they say about the past, I’ve learned, about how you can bury it. Because the past claws its way out. Looking back now, I realize I have been peeking into that deserted alley for the last twenty-six years.” ~Khaled Hosseini “Don’t turn away. Keep your...
“You can’t become what you need to be by remaining what you are.”
Image credit: Hope for the Flowers, Trina Paulis “Pure hell forces action, but anything less can be endured with enough clever rationalization.” ~Tim Ferriss
“The cave you fear to enter …”
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ~Joseph Campbell
“The costs of your good habits are in the present. The costs of your bad habits are in the future.” ~James Clear
There is always a cost. “The costs of your good habits are in the present. The costs of your bad habits are in the future.” ~James Clear
Concept: Hold both
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing… there is a field. I’ll meet you there. ~Rumi We often define other people by their worst moments. However, turn that perspective inward… would you want to be defined by your worst moments? Recognise that life can be complicated. People are complex. You are allowed to dislike some...
If what you seek is truth…
“To negate the ego you must adopt a kind of humility toward knowledge.” ~Robert Greene “…knowledge is constantly progressing. The greatest theories of the timeare eventually disproven or altered at some future point.” ~Michael Faraday Given the choice between being right or effective… choose effective.