Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction I recently bought an online singing course. Yes — me. A guy who, in high school, was told (by his best friend no less) that his back-up vocals were so wildly off-key that it “actually worked as harmony.” Spoiler: it didn’t. That wasn’t a compliment. So why,...
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So, Ya Got Fired…Part 3 Move to Action
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Next take home point: Still fired, so Now What? In our previous installments we discussed an approach to the initial reaction (emotionally) of getting fired, and then discussed an approach to sorting thru the feedback to gain an accurate picture of your current self. Now is the next...
“In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet.” ~Albert Schweitzer
“Curses don’t end…they’re broken.”
https://youtube.com/shorts/Adz_Myjr7kY?si=mmBLe7B9Oa_Xgv7x “Face your pain now or pass it along (even unwittingly) to those you love… just as it was passed on to you.” ~ Terrence Real, I Don’t Want To Talk About It. “The way you treat yourself is ultimately the way you will treat those you love most.” ~Paul Conti, MD “Curses don’t end…they’re...
On self-abandonment…
“We often abandon ourselves in an attempt to prevent other people from abandoning us.” “If you are trying to manage other people’s feelings, you are abandoning your own.” ~Joe Hudson Some problem’s are solution’s to deeper problems… For more on this topic consider the book The Drama of the Gifted Child
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing
Part 4 – Resilience Isn’t Just Bouncing Back (Eggs Break, Tennis Balls Bounce) Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction There’s something quietly seductive about the phrase “bouncing back.” It conjures images of recovery, strength, even speed: someone knocked down by life who springs right back to where they were, untouched and unchanged. It’s...
Why do you look for a third thing?
“When you’ve done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top—credit for the good deed or a favor in return?” ~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 7.73 “When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets...
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing
Part 3 – Resilience Isn’t Pre-Determined Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction One of the more seductive critiques of resilience goes like this: “It’s all predetermined. You either have it or you don’t. It’s baked into your DNA, your childhood, your trauma history, your bank account, or your ZIP code.” Now, is there...
When you see anger… train yourself to look for pain.
https://youtube.com/shorts/R8oqlgWizG8?si=DYXv8hG6PLmI5pUH “Anger is often what pain looks like when it shows itself in public.” – Krista Tippett – Book: I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
The Resilience Rant: Reclaiming and Reframing Part 2 – Resilience Isn’t Victim Blaming
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Let’s start with one of my favorite catchphrases from the feedback side of my coaching work: Any feedback that can be restated as “Stop sucking, be more better” is of limited value. That, in a nutshell, is what gives resilience such a bad name in some circles....