“Everyone is caught up in a chain of events that long predates the present moment. Our anger often stems from problems in our childhood, from the problems of our parents which stem from their own childhood, on and on. Our anger also has roots in the many interactions with others, the accumulated disappointments and heartachesContinue reading "If a person explodes with anger at you, remember this…"
Psychological Richness Part 2: Biases, Blind Spots, and the Postmodern Trap
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction When we left off, we’d mapped out the three dimensions of a good life—happiness, meaning, and psychological richness—and how each complements the others. Happiness comforts. Meaning guides. Richness changes. But now it’s time to ask a harder question: what happens when we turn the microscope back on the model itself?Continue reading "Psychological Richness Part 2: Biases, Blind Spots, and the Postmodern Trap"
Time does not heal… it is what you do in time that heals.
"That was a long time ago, but it’s wrong what they say about the past, I’ve learned, about how you can bury it. Because the past claws its way out. Looking back now, I realize I have been peeking into that deserted alley for the last twenty-six years." ~Khaled Hosseini “Don't turn away. Keep yourContinue reading "Time does not heal… it is what you do in time that heals."
Psychological Richness Part 1 – Defining the Good Life: Happiness, Meaning, and Richness
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction I'd like you to consider a deceptively simple question: what makes a life good? This isn't a new question. Plato warned that an unexamined life wasn’t worth living. Aristotle proposed that the good life was one of virtue and purpose. The Epicureans, by contrast, believed happiness came fromContinue reading "Psychological Richness Part 1 – Defining the Good Life: Happiness, Meaning, and Richness"
“You can’t become what you need to be by remaining what you are.”
Image credit: Hope for the Flowers, Trina Paulis “Pure hell forces action, but anything less can be endured with enough clever rationalization.” ~Tim Ferriss
Running Without a Map: Why Change Needs More Than Good Intentions
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Feedback is a mirror. Over the past two posts, we’ve looked at two ways leaders stumble with feedback: ignoring it altogether (Ignoring the Mirror) and overreacting to every reflection (Trapped in the Mirrors). Both leave you stuck. But there’s a third trap, and it’s sneakier because itContinue reading "Running Without a Map: Why Change Needs More Than Good Intentions"
The most important thing is…
The imperfect process of habit development
“Too often, we fall into an all-or-nothing cycle with our habits... The problem is not slipping up; the problem is thinking that if you can’t do something perfectly, then you shouldn’t do it at all.” ~James Clear
“The cave you fear to enter …”
"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." ~Joseph Campbell
Trapped in the Mirrors: Why Leaders Can’t Please Everyone
Christopher J. Colombo MD, CEC, CMC, CPP Introduction Feedback is a mirror. Last time, we talked about what happens when you refuse to look—the cost of ignoring feedback that is valid, actionable, and desirable. But that was a single source of feedback, or multiple sources showing the same reflection. Another trap emerges from multiple mirrorsContinue reading "Trapped in the Mirrors: Why Leaders Can’t Please Everyone"