Early in my leadership career, I developed a pattern of finding and pointing out many of the things that were wrong with the processes in my organizations. With time and experience, I learned that I was likely not being as helpful as I was trying to be. Processes are and will always be imperfect. Certainly...
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The question is not “Why do I ignore red flags?”…
but, “Why am I attracted to red flags?”
“The costs of your good habits are in the present. The costs of your bad habits are in the future.” ~James Clear
There is always a cost. “The costs of your good habits are in the present. The costs of your bad habits are in the future.” ~James Clear
Concept: Hold both
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing… there is a field. I’ll meet you there. ~Rumi We often define other people by their worst moments. However, turn that perspective inward… would you want to be defined by your worst moments? Recognise that life can be complicated. People are complex. You are allowed to dislike some...
If what you seek is truth…
“To negate the ego you must adopt a kind of humility toward knowledge.” ~Robert Greene “…knowledge is constantly progressing. The greatest theories of the timeare eventually disproven or altered at some future point.” ~Michael Faraday Given the choice between being right or effective… choose effective.
But at what cost…
Everything becomes easier the moment you stop wanting it to be easy…
The problem is you want simple to mean easy. Whatever you are trying to achieve, the path is almost always simple… but not easy.
Why Doing Hard Things Matters
The main purpose of doing hard things, particularly when you do not need to do hard things, is to teach yourself you can do hard things, when you need to do hard things.
“Curses don’t end…they’re broken.”
https://youtube.com/shorts/Adz_Myjr7kY?si=mmBLe7B9Oa_Xgv7x “Face your pain now or pass it along (even unwittingly) to those you love… just as it was passed on to you.” ~ Terrence Real, I Don’t Want To Talk About It. “The way you treat yourself is ultimately the way you will treat those you love most.” ~Paul Conti, MD “Curses don’t end…they’re...
On self-abandonment…
“We often abandon ourselves in an attempt to prevent other people from abandoning us.” “If you are trying to manage other people’s feelings, you are abandoning your own.” ~Joe Hudson Some problem’s are solution’s to deeper problems… For more on this topic consider the book The Drama of the Gifted Child