Unspoken expectations…

Sometimes, when people do not know what they need/want (or do not know how to advocate for their own needs/wants) they will relieve that psychological tension by finding someone else to blame for not knowing what they need/want.

It may sound like this… “If you loved me you would know what I want without me having to tell you what I want.’

Or

You: What would you like for your birthday?

Me: Please do not get me anything… spending time with you would be the best gift.

…

Me: I can’t believe you didn’t get me anything for my birthday.

You: You told me not to get you anything and that you just wanted to spend time with me.

Me: You should have known I did not mean that.