Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE “Our capacity to destroy one another is matched by our capacity to heal one another. Restoring relationships and community is central to our well-being.” ~Bessel VanDerKolk Every interaction with someone offers a choice… Categories
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Concept: What if I did the opposite?
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE If everyone is defining a problem or solving it one way and the results are subpar, this is the time to ask… “What if I did the opposite?” Don’t follow a model that doesn’t work. If the recipe sucks, it doesn’t matter how good a cook you are. ~Tim Ferriss...
Concept: Hanlon’s Razor (adapted)
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Hanlon’s Razor- Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity or incompetence. Hanlon’s Razor (adapted)- Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by _______. Often when I have seen behavior I do not understand, and particularly when I would see behavior I do...
Unspoken expectations…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Sometimes, when people do not know what they need/want (or do not know how to advocate for their own needs/wants) they will relieve that psychological tension by finding someone else to blame for not knowing what they need/want. It may sound like this… “If you loved me you would know...
“…the heroes of all time have gone before us.”
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE We have spent our lives learning to help others… but often do not know what to do or have trouble asking for help when we need help ourselves. It may be useful to remember that someone has experienced what we are experiencing. ____ Reference: The Hero With A Thousand Faces,...
Living life in reverse…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Memento mori- remember you must die. Perhaps not the message you wanted to read. However, there is power in accepting this reality. One day, others will be at your funeral. How will they remember you? They will remember you by how you live your life TODAY… and every other today...
When you help someone out of a challenging situation…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE avoid the temptation to lecture in the immediate period that follows. Allow your actions, the way you live your life, to be the lesson. There will likely be a time for discussion in the future, but it’s rarely now. .. Categories
Something to consider the next time you see behavior you do not understand…
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Your problem is you are driven by a fear of insufficiency and you are hoping that the next thing will be THE answer…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE How do I know? Because… You have already achieved goals you said would make you happy. Read that again… YOU have already achieved goals YOU said would make YOU happy. So… How can you presume that your happiness sits on the other side of your next set of goals given...
You are allowed to dislike some things people do while loving all of the rest of them.
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Sometimes when we are struggling with a relationship it is because we are defining the other person by their worst moments. The problem with this approach is that there is no one that can live up to a perfect standard. Other people are complex and imperfect… just like you. You...