Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Sometimes, when people do not know what they need/want (or do not know how to advocate for their own needs/wants) they will relieve that psychological tension by finding someone else to blame for not knowing what they need/want. It may sound like this… “If you loved me you would know...
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“…the heroes of all time have gone before us.”
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE We have spent our lives learning to help others… but often do not know what to do or have trouble asking for help when we need help ourselves. It may be useful to remember that someone has experienced what we are experiencing. ____ Reference: The Hero With A Thousand Faces,...
The next time you feel stuck, remember…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE There is ALWAYS a lateral move. We naturally want to find the way forward when we feel stuck in life. Often when we find ourselves in such situations, there may not be a clear way forward. Sometimes, there is no way forward (at the time). But there is always a...
Living life in reverse…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Memento mori- remember you must die. Perhaps not the message you wanted to read. However, there is power in accepting this reality. One day, others will be at your funeral. How will they remember you? They will remember you by how you live your life TODAY… and every other today...
When you help someone out of a challenging situation…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE avoid the temptation to lecture in the immediate period that follows. Allow your actions, the way you live your life, to be the lesson. There will likely be a time for discussion in the future, but it’s rarely now. .. Categories
Something to consider the next time you see behavior you do not understand…
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Your problem is you are driven by a fear of insufficiency and you are hoping that the next thing will be THE answer…
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE How do I know? Because… You have already achieved goals you said would make you happy. Read that again… YOU have already achieved goals YOU said would make YOU happy. So… How can you presume that your happiness sits on the other side of your next set of goals given...
You are allowed to dislike some things people do while loving all of the rest of them.
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE Sometimes when we are struggling with a relationship it is because we are defining the other person by their worst moments. The problem with this approach is that there is no one that can live up to a perfect standard. Other people are complex and imperfect… just like you. You...
A question to ask yourself when things are not as you would like them to be…
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Email on the the holidays and after hours- A lesson on change, leadership and followership
Paul M. Michaud MD, CPE During my first leadership role, I developed a habit of using email to share my thoughts with my teammates. This is not necessarily a bad thing in itself, but it was more my lack of discipline, in terms of when I sent those emails, that created a problem. I would...